When my dear friend Tom died, it changed my life

July 22, 2020


Last year, when my dear friend Tom died, it changed my life.

Obviously, I was heartbroken. It took only 86 days from diagnosis of Stage 4 Lung Cancer to when he left this mortal coil. My husband and I miss him dearly.

However, it was the change from within that changed my life.

Brendon Burchard says that there are only two things that change your life.

1. Something new comes into your life. A new friend, new opportunity, new deal, new job, you go to a new city, get a new certification, or do new things for your health.

2. Or a change comes from within. Such as taking back command of your life be it taking back command of your finances, taking back control of your daily experience, taking back control of your life from your phone etc.

For me, it was taking control of my own destiny and wanting to do something extraordinary with my life.

When you work for others you don’t have control of your own destiny. You can’t control when you are going to get any work or losing your job. I decided that I wanted to work for myself, so that I controlled my destiny not someone else.

In my life, I have had my fair share of jobs and work that stifled me. That made me feel incredibly sad, small, unhappy, caged and lost. I hated feeling like that. I knew that there must be something more.

I took action to change that. To leave a secure, permanent full time job that I was miserable in, to pursue my dream of being a photographer. It has been hard. Last year AND this year especially, but just because it isn’t easy doesn’t mean that it isn’t worthwhile.

Too many people just coast through their life settling for average or below average. Why should you settle for average? Why should you work in a job that you absolutely despise? You deserve to live your best life. We all do.

So, I will let you in to something that I am working on. I am working on becoming a digital entrepreneur because my passion is helping people and connecting with people. My purpose is to teach people how to change their mindset and to change their life for the better. It is also to capture your present so your future will know their past, as a photographer.

I have created Change it Live it Love it. At the moment, it is a community for women in the form of a Facebook Group called Change it Live it Love it. Change it Live it Love it is a community where you will get the support, strength, encouragement, clarity, confidence, connection, energy and courage to use your power to find your purpose. To take action to change your life, to live your life and to finally, love your life. It is a community of women who will surround you, support you, connect with you and make you accountable.


However, I am currently working on developing a 7 Day Challenge on How to Change your Mindset and various courses such as Learn to have an Abundance Mindset and How to Change your Life Completely in 8 weeks. There will be a new Change it Live it Love it website and many other exciting things in store in the next 6 months. So, if you are interested in any of what I have mentioned above, please request to join the Facebook Group. If you are the right fit, you will be accepted.

This is all incredibly scary and I am in unknown territory but I am letting you know this so that I can now be held accountable for it all. I feel intimidated and uncomfortable because I am doing all of this for the first time, but I am so committed to helping people live a better life, that I am willing to be uncomfortable.

We can always change our life. We have the power to take action. We just need to have the courage and support to do it. I am using all the courage that I have to do this.

Tom was one in a million. He lived life on his own terms. He knew what he wanted to do and did it. Tom was a writer. He took action. He savoured the moment. He just ran out of time and didn’t get a chance to fulfil all his goals.

Life is super short. Find what you love doing and do it now. Not, “one day”. Let me be the one to help you do it. And remember, if nothing changes, nothing changes.

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